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THE 9LIST BRIDAL WELLNESS FASHION SHOW

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Kimmie Smith

Hi, everyone. Hi, everybody. I'm Kimmie Smith from Athleisure Media and we are here today at the Sample Room, New York. Here, in New York with Ivan Mezza, who we are so excited to be here ahead of New York Bridal Fashion Week, actually happening next week. It's a really exciting time for fashion and an amazing bridal gown. And I appreciate you letting us be here at your showroom.

Ivan Mezza, The Sample Room NY

Oh, I'm delighted that you're here. Welcome.

Absolutely. I mean, I pulled down for our cover shoots for athletes. We've also done other types of events together. And so just being able to find out more about the showroom, why people want to come here, and what's going on with Bridal Fashion Week, as well as getting some fun looks, is a really good thing.

Fantastic news, exciting.

So let's get into a couple of things here. Can you tell me more about the showroom?

Well, it's called the Sample Room New York, and we sell non-used samples from highend designers and high end boutiques. And we really cater to a woman that wants something very unique, very special, a non commercial dress. She really wants to be different. And then the plus is that because we sell right off the rack, and as a sample, you get it at a discounted price.

Wow.

So we have, like, $12,000 gallons that we have at $6,000 selling at retail.

That is amazing. And so how many designers do you have here? There are so many dresses in this room. It's, like, explosive.

Yeah, I think I have too many designers. And it's not just me. It's really the industry every single day because of the changes in technology. It's so easy now to be a designer.

Wow.

You just have to cut and paste and some beautiful pictures and an Instagram account, and boom, you're a designer. To answer your question, we have a lot of the big names Oscar de la Venta, Vera Wang... Everything just goes on and on and on.

I mean, that's fantastic. And what is your position here, and what do you do here? What's an average day for hanging with you?

Well, that's what I really love about the business, is that there's no average day because it is retail. You never know what's going to come into the law. But what's really very basic and very part of the business is that it's a moment in everyone's life that you really want to celebrate, and it's brighter. And for me, it's very dangerous that I do it every day that you get jaded.

Right.

But because you never know who's going to come in, everyone has a different story, and some stories are just so beautiful that it just reinforces my love in the business.

Oh, my gosh. And so what do you look for when it comes to designers? Like, how do you decide which ones are coming?

Well, the thing is that we're here in the Flat Island district or west 21st street in New York City. And it's just so, so much competition that we have to stand out, and we're not going to stand out on price or whatever extreme. So the niche that we created for ourselves is for a woman that wants a non commercial dress, she really wants to be different. She's very self assured, fashion forward, and she wants a really beautiful gown at a good price.

Oh, wow. And so New York Riddle Fashion Week takes place next week. It's two times a year. What events are you guys involved in? Because I know it's a very busy time.

It's a very crazy time in my business, is we cover the whole range. We have retail and we have wholesale. So next week, for the most part, the sample New York will be closed, and we'll be concentrating on the new collections that the designers come in. That segment of the business is only for the industry. It isn't for the prize. But then what's exciting is that because all these new collections are coming in, everyone has to discontinue dresses. And so we'll get a small flurry of new, beautiful design addresses in the coming weeks.

Wow. And what are the trends that you're seeing? Because what season is coming up for some of our listeners, viewers, and readers that may not know what is coming up in terms of the season?

Well, that's the great thing about rival theater in the United States, is that there's season, and that's very different from the rest of the world. It's just per year.

Right.

So it really should be the 24 collection. But for us here in the States, it's fall, winter, spring, summer of 23.

That's fantastic. And what are three designers that we should keep an eye out for that's, like, on your radar?

I mean, it's really amazing because with these changes, with the millennials and all these new generations and all the technological advances, people aren't really people do follow designers, but you follow more like trends, and everyone is really big on discovery. You want something unique, you want something different you want to address, and you've seen your last three girlfriends go down the aisle with.

Absolutely.

But to answer your question, there's some designers that really make distinguish themselves and make an angel for themselves in the industry. One of them is Joanfriend from Barcelona. Another one is a love premier. They are designers. They are a design house from Hong Kong. They have the license for jatan, for eating Cohen in Balboa in their own collections. And those are really beautiful dresses. And then there's another designer that is kind of like, emerging, and her name is Daniel Frankel. She's here from New York. She used to work at Marchesa, and I was just in Miami for a trunk show, and I saw her dresses. She has a very particular look and very beautiful.

Well, what's the next bridal? Fashion week after we leave New York. It's just like in Fashion Month. It goes from city to city to city.

Well, New York really is the last one for the calendar year for this year. And then we will celebrate Bridal Fashion Week next April. But the real big one on a worldwide basis is Barcelona, the Barcelona Bridal Fashion Week. That's going to be the 19th to 23 April. And they really have become the gold standard in vital fashion.

Well, for our listeners that are tuning in, where can they come in? What's the process like for them to be able to come in and get a beautiful job for themselves?

Well, I think the process is, number one, know yourself, know what you want, know what the vibe is and what type of wedding you're having. And also be very sincere and very clear with your budget, because you don't have to spend a lot of money to get a beautiful dress. You can buy a beautiful dress for whatever budget you want. But those are some key elements that if you really know, then it makes the process very easy, because I've met a lot of brides that get really stressed out and they're losing weight and they're just having a horrible experience. But it's because they make it a horrible experience.

Exactly.

It doesn't have to be like that.

Well, and how can brides come to the sample room New York? What is that process? If they want to see your dresses, they love to get addressed themselves. Can someone that's not in the industry come here?

Yeah. No, Debra. New York is definitely we're a retail store, but we're also, like, a hidden gem that's one of the beautiful things of our city is that this type of business exists, and they exist in a place where we have clientels right around the corner. But like I said, we have, like, a niche for that woman that wants something different and not spend a lot of money.

So we've been talking about the Bridal season and also what you do here. We selected two dresses that are amazing. I hope you can tell us a little bit about it and also talk about a little extra that's been added on top of it. So we first have Amanda that is wearing a beautiful dress. Can you tell us about this?

Well, this is a Yoland crease from Barcelona. And this is a short mini dress. It's a white crepe. It's embroidered with pearls and brine stones. And the thing about Yoland Priest is that they always give a twist to their dresses. And what I love the twist here is the vertical pleated tool in the front.

I love that, and I always love throwing a little extra in it. I love the beating. I love a nice weighted item that makes you really notice there. But I also love that we have these really great lava caviar meeting jewelry pieces that are also on her, which is like a nice way to accentuate it. And I never thought that I like the veil. But you told me a veil is way to go. I've been a nonvale girl, but apparently I need to rethink my choice.

Yes, because a lot of times, some women don't want the veil because of symbolism or other people think that, oh, it's too long. But I really, truly believe, and maybe it's because of my age that the veil means to bribe.

Right.

Because how many times in your life are you going to wear a veil? Maybe for Halloween or for your wedding day? And then the veil means different things, like, for instance, what Amanda has on now, this is a short veil, and it's very appropriate for this type of address and perhaps a setting that she's going to celebrate her wedding. So a lot of women think, oh, veil, the Montea, the little country, Virginia. No, it's not that. There's really a veil for any type of dress invitation.

i love that. And this is cute. And I love this little short trend, too.

Correct.

Just like a little fun flirty. But yes, it really does have an old world classic feel because of the beating.

Correct. And also, it's interesting. This is a discontinued gown, but notice the pearls. Pearls. This is from, I think, 2019. The pearls are a trend now here in the United States. And this is one of the things that I love so much about the European designers, is that they're really part of the Vancouver, and they really establish a lot of the trend that we see here years later and even in the war season.

Don't you think this is a dress that could also transition into that as well? The red carpet lot.

Correct. This is a type of dress that it can go for any occasion. If it's going to be a bride, it would be for her wedding day, like the city hall. But it could also be like which is a real big thing. Now, when they change, let's say Amanda is going to get married in a really typical ballgown, and it's heavy. And if she can't dance, if she can't have fun, then she changes afterwards into this type of her. Or it could be a beautiful cocktail dress.

I love it. I love it. It gives me Dynasty battles, experience the moment. And so thank you, Amanda, so much. And now we also have stage. So I love, once again, there's so many options of what a bride can be. This is a beautiful gown. Please tell me a little bit about this.

Well, this is another yoland, Chris. This is part of our new collection. It's called peron. And what I love about this dress is that, well, here in the United States, the best selling silhouette is a fitting clear. But this has a high neck, it has a transparent back. But when you look at the beautiful French lace. The designers have added laurel motifs.

Right.

And that's all applied by hand, as is the beating. And this is really something that's inspired by the whole octaco movement.

This is very beautiful. Once again, we paired it with some gold blue logo story caviar being with a little bit of that blue feel to it, just to add a thumping blue moment right there. And once again, I really feel like this is another item that are dressed that can be worn for an evening out, like a really nice daylight. It's really nice to see that where wedding wear is going, that it truly can also be evening wear as well.

Absolutely. And one thing that I tell all of my prides is, like, a dress like this afterwards for your anniversary, your one year anniversary or five year anniversary or whatever, cut it. This dress, if you cut it, like, below the knee, I think would be fabulous. And you can do, like, if you want to do, like, a small change and do more like a pencil stress.

Oh, I love that.

That would look really amazing. Because if you really love a dress and it's the dress, why only wear it once in a life? And especially for the investment you're making. Absolutely. So if we take this dress and we cut it, no one's going to know it was a wedding dress. It'll still be really beautiful. You'll feel really beautiful, and you can wear it for special occasions for a long, long time.

I love that. Well, Sage, thank you so much.

Thanks.

And with New York Bridal Fashion Weekly next week, what designers that you work with are actually going to be forgetting that people can check out whether online or virtually.

We're going to have Luftramia, which is going to be showing the new Jattan collection without the Inworld collection. Eden Cohen and some other really beautiful collections will be coming out under their umbrella. And then we'll also have yolandais.

Wow. So you have a full calendar?

Yes, we have a full calendar. And one of the challenges of us here in New York City for bridal market is that it's not organized as far as one vending.

Right.

IM In other places it is. And so that makes it a real big challenge getting around.

As I know I typically pick just a few shows during Bridal Fashion Week because it's just like you said, there's just a lot going on. But it's always a beautiful moment, whether it's for evening wear or for wedding dresses. And I really want to thank you for telling us more about this. So where can we contact you to see what's going on to reach out to you?

Well, absolutely. Contact at the Samruwmanwide.com. I invite you to go on to YouTube and the other channels and afterwards and see all the fashion shows that you couldn't see in person because it is for the industry, and it's really exciting that New york City is that, thank goodness. I think we've seen the worst of what we live through. And that's one of the beautiful things about Bridal, is that it is a special celebration in all of our lives and it's not just a business.

Absolutely. Well, we are so excited. This is one of our first events from The Nigel where we've always shown you guys through the issues about what are our favorite picks, how can you purchase those picks, and getting to know a little bit more about that. And what we're going to continue to do through these series is go to places that we've loved, we've shared. Maybe you've seen it in our editorials, maybe you've seen it in a roundup and bringing it to life, talking to the people who make it happen, supporting those people who make it happen, and just having a really good time and meeting everyone. And we want to thank Amanda and Stage that we're a part of this as well because we're about to step out of this shop, so you can kind of see them. You'll be able to know more about this by visiting Ninelist.com Shopenbulluck, which is actually a hyphen between shop and the look. And you'll be able to kind of see the pieces that they have. You'll also see amazing photography that we're actually going to do after this is done. And we also want you to remember that, like you said, it is a special day.

You should enjoy it. And you should also take those wellness selfcare moments as well, like get your meditation on, do your fitness goals, take a breath because it is a really fun time to share with your friends and family. And we will be with you at the next Nine series. And you can also listen to this on podcast at the end of this week. Thanks, guys. We're going to step out. You're going to see these amazing women and we thank everyone for being here.

THE 9LIST INFOMERICAL HEALTH SERIES - WITH JEN SINGER

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Kimmie Smith

Alright, well, I just want to welcome you to THE 9LIST Health Series. And you know, we're here with Jim Singer who is here to talk with us to navigate when people are sick going through heart failure. And for those that are taking a caregiver role during these times, it's an important message that we want to get out there to share with those who are going through this. And I hope that everyone watches is going to find this informational series, pointing them in the right direction on their journey, and obviously following along with you as you continue to make additional bugs that we need to know about. So, before we delve into the Just Diagnosed guides that you've written on heart failure, how to support someone who's sick and how to be sick, I'd like to dig into your background. And for those that are going to be tuning in, you're a medical writer and your work has been used with the number of top hospitals and you've also been someone who has navigated being a patient and being in hospitals. Can you share a little bit about your background?

Jen Singer

Yeah, well, I wasn't always a medical writer. I came into it the hard way by first getting cancer. So when I was 40, I had non Hodgkin's lymphoma. I had a tumor the size of a softball and left lung and went through all of that chemo and all of that radiation while my kids were little, made it into remission, and a couple of years later changed courses in my career and decided I wanted to write about this to help other patients. So for several years I worked for a couple of different major hospitals in New York City, writing patient friendly information about all the things they need to know.

And what led you to decide to break out and focus on the Just Diagnosed series.

So then I had another diagnosis and that was in 2020. I got code. Classic. And a couple of weeks later, my heart started shutting down, the electrical system started shut down, it's called a cardiac block. And from that I wound up with heart failure. It was probably started with the chemo and the radiation that increased my odds of heart failure. And then here I was, 53 with heart failure and a pacemaker. And so I joined online support groups for people with heart failure and I kept seeing people over and over again saying, are the statistics online right? Am I going to be dead in five years? And no, those statistics were not right. And I knew that as a medical writer. In fact, when I was diagnosed with heart failure, I googled heart failure and got something I had written for a hospital.

It was like a previous you letting.

You know, 2015 Jen was helping. 2020 Jen?

Yes. Wow. Well, in heart failure you provide information on what heart failure is, it's stages, and the theories behind why this happens and prescreenings and tests that are done and how to talk about your symptoms. When you see a doctor, the guy really breaks down what someone with this condition or the caregiver can anticipate. Why did you take this methodical approach?

Because that's how I was trained as a medical writer. That's exactly what we did. We would be given, you're going to write about pediatric cancer, and then you had to do the research on how it's diagnosed, what the options for treatments are. We had to interview the doctors to find out what that specific hospital did and then what the long term prognosis was. So when I decided to create my own guides and heart failure is just the first of many, there's going to be a lot of other guides, not all things that I've had right, okay. But the idea is to give people the real scoop of what they need to know without the medical ease, without the scary statistics, and with an insider's view and a little bit of humor and a lot of compassion.

And in the book, you take us through various vantage points from when you're at the doctor's office and when you're at the hospital and after care in terms of symptoms and medication and dietary changes. You even explore that urge to Google something and connecting with message boards like you said, and why you need to have a support system. What has been the feedback for people that have been reading this?

What I say for the just diagnosed guides is when you're diagnosed with something, don't Google it because you don't have the medical background. Obviously you're emotional, you're scared, and so you're going to get all kinds of unfiltered information that I've waited through for years as a medical writer, and it's going to scare the heck out of you. So I recommend that people get some sort of filtered information, and that's exactly what this is. It's what you really need to know now that you're just diagnosed.

And then for those, you also focus on how to be sick. And you really dig into that. And a big part, it seems to me, is when you should choose to decide to go to the hospital, when to see your doctor, the importance of what the best appointment buddy is. What are three of the key things that one should look for if you opt to bring a person with you, and what are three things that you should look for that might disqualify that person is your appointment buddy.

So I decided that in addition to the treatment guides, that people needed a book on how to be sick because we're taught how to be healthy, but not how to be sick. And so if you bring someone with you, because it's always helpful when you're an appointment to have another set of ears, even if you're taking notes, having someone else do that for you is extremely helpful, depending on who you bring. So if you bring someone who's really good at taking notes, someone who's really good at listening, and somebody who really has your back, you know, someone close to you who's really concerned about who you are, that person can come along with you. The person you don't want to bring is the person that you have to take care of, either emotionally or they're the kind of person who inject themselves into your appointment. Maybe they're trying to make the doctor laugh or whatever it is, it's not helpful to you, or they are terrified by what they're hearing. Those things don't help you. And it doesn't mean they don't love you. It just means that they're not your appointment buddy.

They're not the right person. Right. I love the scripts. That's actually one of my favorite things about that. I think even outside of when you're talking about things like this, sometimes you need a script when you're talking to people so you're not all over the place and being focused. Why is this important to you to include this, especially when you're talking to these various medical professionals?

Yes, I have scripts in there for you to call busy doctor's offices. And I actually created my own when I was about to be diagnosed with cancer. I had been misdiagnosed with pneumonia and I was trying to get in to see a pulmonologist. I was 40, I didn't have a pulmonologist. And you call and it'll be appointments three months from now, and honestly, I would have been dead three months from then.

Wow.

So I needed to get in right away. So calling them, I knew I'm going to sound crazy. They don't know who I am, they don't have to take me. So I sat down and wrote out a script so that it was all business. This is what I'm doing. These are the fire engine words. They're saying possible math, possible cancer. And that's what got me in the next day at a pulmonologist. So I wrote up scripts like that that you can use when you call in your own doctor's office, because the people answer the phone are very busy. Get to the point quickly.

And for those that are admitted to the hospital, you also mentioned that you need to be aware when you're talking about something, about what you're feeling, that this could be creating unintended focuses on you that you might not have thought about. Can you share that story? I love that story. I mean, it must have been terrifying, but yeah.

My experience when I went into the hospital in 2020, and this was COVID, no one was allowed in your room, no one was allowed to visit. So I had the room to myself. I had been put on to the cardiology floor and I was used to the oncology floor. And on the oncology floor, nurses come in and ask you what your pain level is and you tell them on a scale of one to ten, and then they adjust your pain muds accordingly.

Right.

So I thought when the nurse came in on the cardiology floor, this was the game we were playing, how much pain? And I just kind of said, well, it's kind of whatever number I said. And within I mean, it felt like a minute. All of a sudden, I was surrounded by eight medical professionals. Like Seal team six had shown up. Because when you say, I'm having pain and you're on the cardiology floor, you might be having a heart attack.

Exactly, yeah. Oh, my God. That must have been you must have been like, Wait, you want my autograph?

Yeah. I realized immediately what was happening. Like, no, no, no. Let me explain why I said that and go from there.

Another part that I loved was when you talked about the circles of support and that diagram and identifying who's a part of it and how you're able to disseminate certain kinds of information. Can you share a little bit about that? And why is it important to have that?

Yeah. Because in this Internet age, we tend to overshare. And I'm saying this to somebody who blogged my cancer for GoodHousekeeping.com and blogged my experience with heart failure on Facebook. Still have to be extremely careful with what information you share and with whom. So we want to keep in the middle of the circles of support that go out like this. Very middle around you is the people for whom this matters the most. Your family, your doctors and whatnot. And I would recommend that if you have small children, that they have their own circle of support, because you can't share everything with kids. But you do need to share something.

Right.

You go out from there to other people who need.

Need to know because it affects them. But they don't need to know all the details, like a boss or your kids, soccer coaches, whatever. They just need to know something's happening. Right. You go out from there until you get to social media and that's where you decide, am I going to start a Facebook page? Am I going to share this on my Facebook page? Is it going to be a private page? Figure all that out. Because if you don't, you will be going to the supermarket and every five minutes someone will be asking you how you feel when you're just trying to buy milk.

Yeah. Sometimes the oversharing, and especially in that situation, you want to control it as best as you can. And maybe in those circumstances too. Are you telling people, depending on their circles, and this is not something I want to go here, if you see this person in this circle, this is the only thing you can say, like, do you also manage it from that perspective?

Yeah. They don't need to know that you're having bone pain that drops you to your knees. They don't need to know that. Back to school in light.

Rght.

But your doctor needs to know that and your sister needs to know that. Be very careful about who you're sharing this information with.

And people who are currently a patient and have been patient have a number of lifestyle changes that take place and you speak on that too. How does someone approach their work, whether they work for themselves or for someone else, when they're navigating getting back to where they are?

Yeah. So when I was diagnosed with cancer, it was the year I also got four book deals and so I was in the middle of writing books, so I immediately asked for an extension there. I just started blogging for Good Housekeeping about parenting tweens. It was not supposed to be about cancer and I had luckily had written six weeks of them because I just was not feeling well and thought, I'd better get some of these done. So I gave myself a chance. If you are employed by somebody else, that's a conversation. You need to sit down and find out what kind of resources they have for you, because you're not going to be able to work like you did before, especially if you're having chemo. You're going to feel lousy for the first few days after chemo. You could be having surgery where you're out, down and out for a long time. So you need to bring in everybody who's involved. But if you're self employed, also be careful because you can outsource things and they don't need to know you're outsourcing things. But I also wouldn't keep it a huge secret from everyone either, because then people are going to make it worse than it probably is.

And in terms of heart conditions, what do you suggest in terms of maintaining health and wellness? And nutritional changes that a person may have to do.

So I was already in really good shape, honestly, when I had heart failure, despite having had cancer, I was in sedona with my kids who were in college at the time, hiking, and one of my kids is the mile holder, record holder for Ithaca College. Not that I was running, but I was keeping up with him. I didn't have to change too much except to not do as much after. However, in heart failure, you tend to take on water, so I have to reduce my sodium intake and no more Mexican food. I have to be very careful about how much salt I take in. Alcohol really does not make me feel good, not advisable. So I exercise as much as my body will let me do. But if you haven't done that, make sure that you go to cardiac rehab. Ask for your doctor. For cardiac rehab, I did just so that they could keep track of me and keep me from doing stupid things, because I used to lift, you know, I used to bench press 75 in the gym, and I can curl 10 now.

Wow.

Just need someone watching over you to figure out what you can do.

And so is that like, a lot of checking in?

Yeah. So with cardiac rehab, the way it was set up is insurance pays for it, and you go three times a week and they hook you up to an EKG while you're exercising to see if any problems are going on. And now I'm done with that part, but I still go once a week and pay $10 out of pocket just to be around the nurses and to get a little exercise, because it's not worth it for me to join a gym, but at least I could do something there.

Wow. And I liked when you talked about energy, triage, why was this important to include? And can you tell me a little bit about that? For everyone else that will be tuning.

In, this especially goes to the perfectionists who feel that they need to do everything. You cannot do everything when you're sick, so it's like having a gas tank, and your gas tank will never be completely full again. So you have to decide what you're going to put your energy toward. And so, for instance, with heart failure, right now I feel really good, but it's been a roller coaster. And on the days where I don't feel good, the primary thing I need OK, I need to work because I'm a single mom. I can't even say that my kids are grown. Now I'm single, and I need to pay for this. And I was paying for college, so that was the first thing that I need to do, is, okay, what work do I absolutely have to get done? I do not have to clean my toilet that goes. I can bring in food if cooking make me tired. So you really have to start adjusting where you're putting your energy toward. And if you're feeling better, then put it toward a walk or something like that. I like that instead of cleaning out.

The closet, the closet can wait. Well, each book speaks to caregivers and how they are involved from the one that's the treatment oriented ones with heart failure at this point, how to be sick. But how to support someone who's sick really focuses on a caregiver as well as those that will be interacting with someone who is sick. I never thought about how if there's anything I can do can be problematic versus saying, I'm so sorry this is happening. Tuesday night, I'm bringing over dinner. Why was that important for you? To really let people know about how we're conditioned, but how we need to be when we're in these circumstances to better help someone that's a patient.

So everybody wants to help somebody, and we all feel helpless in helping people. And often we will say, if there's anything I can do, which sounds like it's helpful, but it's actually homework for the patient because now the patient has to come up with something for you to do that no one else is doing. That's within the realm of the circles of support that makes sense for what you need to do. Instead, I recommend that you actually make a specific offer. So I know that you're going to chemo next week. Do you want to ride? I know that you have a heart condition. You're not feeling well. Would you like me to mow your lawn next weekend? And things like that. And if you don't know what to do, just send a gift basket or a gift card to DoorDash or something like that is always appreciated.

Honestly, that part stuck with me because I was like, wow. It's something that we say that we think, oh, but we're giving you a bevy off of options. But now thinking about the circles your energy triaging, it shouldn't really be for you to have to be like, hold on, Jenny and Jody did this. That would be a lie. And I think that having really active language as opposed to passive is definitely something that you actually trained me on when I read that this weekend many times, and now I understand that it's a little overwhelming to say something like that. So you also look at ways that caregivers must make sure that they replenish themselves. Why is it essential for people in this position to also take time for themselves?

So when you're a caregiver and I'm a caregiver for my mom, she has Parkinson's, you tend to feel, okay. I'm the healthy one, or in my case, healthier. I guess I should be able to get through this fine. But it's a lot on you. It's a lot on you logistically. It's a lot on you emotionally, especially if we're talking about inside a family, you know, spouses and children helping out, you need a break too. And you can't say, well, they're sick and therefore my needs are not necessary because that's just going to burn you out and make you sick and then you're useless to the person who's sick. There needs to be care for the caregivers, and the caregiver is the one who has to take that. And I would say to patients, make sure you're paying attention to that, don't put too much on them. Try and spread it around a little bit if you can.

And I would assume that in many cases, there may be a few caregivers that can be involved with the patient. So is it a good idea that in this case, they communicate with each other in terms of making sure the efforts are aligned, that they're not overwhelming the patient?

Yeah. In fact, one of my neighbors, when I had cancer, we had started construction on the house. We had no kitchen, and so everybody likes to cook for somebody who's sick, and they wanted to cook for our family. So my neighbor organized it and didn't just organize it, she made a schedule so that we knew which days we were getting what and made sure we didn't get four lasagnas in one week. She was very clear about who was bringing what and when. And then if somebody backed out, had some sort of back up, whether that's sending something from a restaurant or something like that.

Wow. And beIng someone who's been in this industry from the medical writing perspective, and also being someone who's navigated both sides as a patient and a caregiver, what did you learn? And I know obviously you knew all of these things because that's why you created it. But in doing this and literally putting it down and doing it in the flow that you wanted, what did you learn by doing these guys?

I just think that the number one thing that patients need is validation. That what we feel is what we feel. We don't need to be told to be strong and stay positive because that is also homework and also then we feel very much othered that's saying, well, you have a disease, you just have to be positive and your attitude will fix it, which studies show that is not what happens at all. Your attitude won't cure cancer. Your attitude can affect your heart, but if you're quashing your true feelings, that will affect your heart. To me, it's time to be real about what patients need, and we need to talk about it in language that we can all understand and in terms.

Of the future and ongoing efforts. Are there guys you're already working on? Now, we know that not every guy that comes out means that you had that situation.

Thankfully, I'm going to run out of diseases. The next one I'm going to do is lymphoma, which I did have. So I'm going to do Lymphomas, but then I'm going to start concentrating on some of the most common ones, like breast cancer. I'll probably do a Parkinson's guide. Other what I call a damn diagnosis when people hear, oh, she's got that. Oh, damn. So that in the same way that I did for hospitals. I can supply information, but from an insider's point of view, because I've had all of the tests and all of the things, even if I haven't had the condition. Yeah.

How long did it take you to come up with the guy?

That is a very good question. I started thinking about it less than a year ago, just watching the heart failure boards. I thought, this is a part of the market that is not being reached. And so I just started writing and there's four of them out already and there's going to be more. I don't have a publisher interested in printing them.

That's what I was just going to ask you. What is the vision? Because I can so see this. For those who are watching this, the average between 35 and 44 pages are so well thought out. And I was like, These have to be in a physical book form.

Yeah. As soon as we strike the deal, they're going to come out in print form in 2023. And they will be available on Amazon and in bookstores. And they'll also be available in bulk sales for, let's say, a pharmaceutical company or a healthcare company. They want to give them to their patients. These are going to be available to them.

Wow. And so for those that are interested in purchasing the Just diagnosed guides, or those who may have questions, how can they reach out to you and get them?

Stop by my website. It's justdxguides.com you can also visit, see me on Instagram at just dxguides and on Twitter at gen. Singer well, this has been amazing.

I love hearing everything. And like I said, I literally took the weekend and read through it and I was like, this is like every word. So this is really interesting. I love all the aspects that you have to it and how, like you said, it's conversational, but it's so necessary. And it's also something that you can kind of like, bookmark a little bit and come back to where you need it. And it's such a great resource. And to have you here on the Nine List health series sharing with people, I really, really appreciate you taking the time.

It's been my pleasure. Thank you so much.

Jimmy. Alright, thank you. And I can't wait to see what the new books are for informational purposes, obviously.

Yes, of course.

THE 9LIST TRAINING COURSE | KNOW YOUR DIAMONDS

https://youtu.be/D58-dO5ngbQ

Olivia Starling. Founder/CEO of Starlet Galleria:

Welcome, everybody. My name is Olivia Starling. I'm the founder and CEO of Starlette Galleria, and I'm going to teach all of THE 9LIST Training Course, everything you need to know about high quality simulated diamond rings, what you need to look for, and how to care for them.

So I started back about four years ago. I had an idea to start an online business. I didn't know what I wanted to sell, and I went online, and I was looking at all these things. I found these really beautiful rings, and I ordered one, and it was gorgeous, but it was not great quality. Like, it turned my finger green.

I knew it wasn't good. And I had my real diamond ring that I got when I was married, but the stone was small. I didn't love it anymore. It had been like eight or nine years and gone out of style. And so I thought, what if I made this ring that wasn't great quality into beautiful quality so that every woman could have her dream ring, even if her wedding ring went out of style or it wasn't the big stone that she wanted or even just to swap out for traveling, pregnancy and all the other reasons why women might not wear their real diamond rings.

So, a little bit about my brand, I wanted to make sure that we had the best quality. And so we made sure that all of our rings were made of sterling silver, which is a really sturdy, good metal, but sterling silver can sometimes turn a little bit. It'll just tarnish. And so then I made sure that we had them plated in real rhodium or gold, which is something that a lot of people don't do. And we double plate most of our rings because plating over time can wear off.

But I wanted to make sure that women could really wear these rings to make sure they're double plated. And then with the stone, I wanted to make sure that it was set in the setting instead of glued. A lot of people will glue a stone in, but for my rings, the detail, the longevity of the ring, all of those things, if you have a stone that's placed in a setting and not glued, it all looks so much better. It lasts longer, and it's just like a real diamond ring. And then with the stone, that's the most important part.

We wanted to make sure that the clarity was just flawless, because if you make a ring, it's so much easier to make sure that it's perfect. And so we made sure the cut was perfect, the color, the clarity, everything. So the rings are just absolutely stunning and brilliant. And that was how I came up with the concept of making sure that these rings were just perfect, made just like a real diamond.

There's a lot of different ways a simulated diamond is anything that looks like a diamond. So you could call anything from, like, moistenite. You can say, like, a lab grown diamond, anything that looks similar to a diamond. But mine are made of AAA cubic zirconia. There's also servosci crystal and things like that.

I chose cubic zirconia because it is actually a really durable stone. It's actually close to a diamond with durability and strength, and it's really, like, clear, beautiful. Like I've already said, it's accessible so that we can keep our prices lower. You can buy a moisturizing ring for thousands, but you can buy one of mine for around 200 or under. So the price point was there, the quality was there, the beauty is there.

And so all of my stones are triple a cubic zirconia.

There are so many reasons why my customers tell me more and more reasons why they buy them as we go. But one thing is, when you're pregnant and your fingers swell. When I got pregnant, I was huge, and I didn't want to wear, like, a rubber band. I wanted to wear bling. And here's my pro tip.

If you are pregnant and your ring doesn't fit, get a ring that has a bigger stone than your actual ring, and no one will know that your fingers are swollen.

So just get a bigger stone and nobody will know. Your finger will look skinnier. So also, when people travel, and I actually do a lot of international travel, and I like to swap out my ring because you could leave it somewhere, you could lose it, somebody could steal it. There's so many reasons. I actually went to Orlando three weeks ago with one of my best friends who should know better.

She should know better because she was traveling with me, and she left her wedding ring in the hotel. And thankfully, I was the last person that left to the hotel, and I found it on the nightstand, and I scolded her. And she's never traveled with her wedding ring again because when you're traveling, like, you're off your routine, you're off your schedule, you leave things, places. Like, it's just not safe to travel with a diamond. People also buy our rings.

Like, I was at a lunch with a very successful businesswoman a little bit ago, and she was telling me that she got married really young and they didn't have a lot of money, so her diamond ring wasn't super impressive. And now that her career has taken off, they've, like, had a baby and bought a house, and she's like, it just doesn't feel, like, realistic right now to buy a big diamond. And so she wears one of my rings when she does big events and things like that. And then she loves her real wedding rings, so she wears that around most of the time. Gosh, I could just go on.

During COVID a lot of nurses ended up wearing our rings because they were ruining their diamonds. Their diamonds were like the white gold was coming off, and their diamonds were getting cloudy from all the hand sanitizer. So we had a bunch of people during COVID nurses and doctors who needed a different ring that they could kind of not worry about destroying. And so they were buying our rings as well. I could go on and on.

Our customers come up with more and more ideas and reasons why to buy our rings. Every single day is awesome.

So I keep the prices as low as I can. I started this business in my basement, and actually, we're still in my basement. I remodeled everything. Behind me is our shipping center in our warehouse so that we can keep our overhead low. We keep our prices super affordable.

I want this to be accessible to every woman, not just like a top view.

So once we came out with rings, and then our customers were like, the metal quality is so good. I'm really sensitive to metals. Can you make earrings? And I was like, that's genius. So we make really great earrings that are so good for people who are hypersensitive.

We haven't had any reactions. People have messaged me and said, I haven't been able to wear earrings in years, and I can wear yours. So I'll show you. I have these cute jade stone ones. And we have a great assortment of earrings that are awesome, too.

For people with any kind of sensitivity, I can keep them in pretty much all the time, like sleep, shower, workout, which then I started to realize I'm super lazy when it comes to accessories, so I need something I can work out in showering and I never have to take off. And since we do such good quality, I can do that with these earrings and our necklaces as well. So once we came out with earrings, everybody was like, okay, we want necklaces. And so this is one of our most popular necklaces. It's our crescent moon necklace.

And it's hard to see on camera, but it's done with all of our simulated diamonds inside. So it's not just like the basic it's really, really pretty. And honestly, I never take my jewelry off, and it stays so nice. I'll take it off to clean it maybe like, once every other month. That's about it.

And then one of our favorite things that we came out with that a lot of people don't have are these ear cuffs. So I wanted to have this ear piercing, and I was like, I don't really want to get something pierced at this point in life. So we came out with these, and it's this little eddy bitty thing, and you just stick it right on your ear and clamp it down, and they stay on through everything. Like, I sleep in them. We get really cute pictures from our customers, stacking them all the way up.

So we just have a huge assortment of jewelry. Now, based on what people want, based on what I want. We're just listening to our audience and going for it.

I think it's really important to be completely honest. I got divorced a couple of years ago, and that was devastating. I owned an engagement ring company, and when I was going through my divorce, I thought, how am I going to sell engagement rings when I can't even wear them? And that was, like, a pivotal moment for me, where I was like, why do I need a ring to say that I'm loved if I also love myself? And so I actually wear a ring on my right hand most of the time, so I don't wear on my wedding hand.

And it's, like, my gift to me. It's my love for myself. It's everything that I've worked and achieved. And so this is the one that I love wearing the most. It's the dolly paired with the Evelyn, because, I mean, why not?

And I think it is important for women that are married or that are single that we give ourselves something, because every woman is chosen. You don't need a ring to say who you are. And that's been a really important, like, pivotal factor where I feel like I had to go through that hard time of my life to understand that this is more than just being married or being in a relationship. Like, women deserve to have something beautiful no matter what their relationship status is.

Okay, the four c's are cut, color, clarity, and carrot. And, like, with a diamond. So if you purchase a diamond, you can select all these different things, and it's really hard because diamonds are obviously made in nature, and so it's not controllable. So if you're wanting a big diamond but you don't want to spend a whole lot, you have to sacrifice the cut, the color, the clarity, and then you'll have the big carrot. And so with diamonds, I feel like there's always a trade off.

Like, do you want the better price? Do you want the bigger stone? Do you want the smaller stone? But it's more sparkly. And so there's all these factors that play into buying a real diamond.

And the truth about buying a real diamond is the resell value. So as soon as you leave the jeweler, you could only resell that ring for 40% or less of what you purchased. It it depreciates faster than buying a brand new car and driving it off a lot. So there's a lot of sacrifice, there's a lot of depreciation, there's a lot of, like, nonfinancial benefits, no financial benefit, really, to buying a real diamond, but then you can tell everybody you have a real diamond.

Okay, so you get to say that. But with the simulated diamonds, they're great because we don't have to sacrifice anything. We make sure they all have the best cut, the best color, the best clarity, the biggest carrot you want, or the smallest if you want something more dainty. And so if my rings are all done internally, flawless, beautiful, cut to perfection, everything. You don't have to sacrifice one thing for another.

And you're spending 200 or under versus, like, 20,000. And so you're really not losing out financially as well. And so that is a really big part of my business is making sure that our product is beautiful and that women don't have to sacrifice in the process.

Have almost every single shape. So we have oval, we have round, we have pear, we have emerald, we have marquis, we have gosh. I could go on and on. We are constantly adding to our collection. We're coming out with a new collection here in November.

And so we're always constantly getting more shapes, more sizes. There are women that want something that they're not into the really big bling. So we also have smaller carrot sizes. We have stuff that is more like realistic in like the standards of not wanting to fly something giant if they are traveling internationally and things like that. We have a huge selection and we're always adding to it.

Our jewelry is really easy to clean. So what we always say, and we have tips on our instagram as well, we have a reel to show you. I just like to get a toothbrush and like a little thing of soapy water and I just brush it and clean it that way and then we just set it out, let it dry and harsh. Chemicals aren't good for real diamonds. They're not good for simulated diamonds.

I would never get one of those chemical cleaners. And then for real diamonds, honestly, a lot of people don't know they can cloud over time if they're white gold. It's actually plated in white gold so it can start to rub off and it looks yellow. And so if you have a real diamond, my suggestion for longevity in keeping it is to not actually wear it every single day, because you'll get lotions and chemicals and things like that in it that will cloud the stone. And so making sure that you kind of just bring that out for special occasions if you want to keep it looking nice and pretty.

We do have a couple of pink stones and one of my favorite best selling rings we have because pink is obviously my color is pink halo ring. And so the center stone is just clear and then around it there's a pink halo. And it's been one of our best sellers almost since day one. And I absolutely love it. We've done burst stones and things like that.

And I'm thinking this upcoming year we'll bring it back because that seems to be super trendy and we're just following kind of what other people are doing right now too.

So we're actually going through like a major rebrand with my business. And so if you guys haven't go check out the website. It's completely redone with videos and a bunch of really fun, like, engaging things on the website. We have a new collection coming out in mid November, which is going to be great. And it has more of like, a classic spin on rings.

So we were looking like old Hollywood was the theme. And so my team and I were looking. We were like, what would somebody in old Hollywood wear for a ring? And so that's what we picked out. They're so gorgeous.

Hopefully mid November will be all ready for that. And also, we always do really good deals for Black Friday for Christmas. Like, I want you guys to be able to get something that's beautiful that's not going to break the bank. Oh, and also tennis bracelets. I just looked over and saw one of them on my desk.

But we just got these, and we're going to get them over to the photographer. But these tennis bracelets, so hard to see. They are gorgeous. And so we're going to be offering tennis bracelets, and usually they would be thousands of dollars. And we're going to try to keep them under 100, which is a really great price.]

And I love, like, the way that they class. It's just like a really classic, beautiful look. So those are coming out in November as well, the naming community. You guys are awesome. And I am so glad that you're here and I'm so glad to finally meet you guys.

You can find me on Instagram at Starlet Galleria, spelled like this. You can also find my personal profile on Instagram. I'm olivia is not an influencer. You can find us at Starlet Galleria.com. You can find us on Facebook.

You can find us on TikTok. We're absolutely everywhere. Come by and say hi to me. I would love to hear how you like this episode. And I'm so grateful for you guys.

I hope you have a great day.

THE 9LIST TRAINING COURSE | HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF YOUR SHEET MASK

https://youtu.be/LCwyoeKxEaI

Sabrina, Social Media Coordinator, ESW

Hi. My name is Sabrina. I'm the Social Media Coordinator with ESW Beauty, and I'm excited to share with the nine list how to get the most out of your sheet mask for this training course. During this training course, I'm going to show you how you can prep your skin for a sheet mask, how to correctly apply the sheet mask itself, as well as any tools you can use during the process and after you remove the sheet mask. How to really get the most out of the sheet mask and lock in all the benefits.

Before we get started, I'll tell you a little bit more about us. So we're ESW beauty. We're a clean, beauty skincare brand inspired by healthy living and healthy beverages. We have three lines of products, including our Broad Use Sheet Mask Line, our Plantbased Milk Mask Line and our Soothing Tea Facial Tools line which includes a guashaw and a facial roller. All of our products are clean, vegan, crueltyfree, and sustainable.

Our Plant-based Milk Mask line is certified compostable, and our Soothing Tea Facial tools are made in post consumer recycled packaging. Okay, so let's talk about how to prep your skin before applying the sheet mask. So you want to start out by cleansing your skin and making sure it's super clean. Whether it's the morning or the night time, removing excess oils or leftover makeup, you do want to make sure to cleanse before then. You can go in with your toner.

Your toner is going to help balance the skin as well as open up the pores so your skin can really absorb all the benefits and the ingredients of the sheet mask. I like to use a hydrating toner, especially in the colder months. My skin gets a little dry, and you can use whichever you like.

Next comes the Sheet mask application. I'm just going to be putting my hair up in a way out of my face so my hair doesn't get inside the sheet mask. My sheet mask of choice. Today I'm going to be using from our new Plant based milk mask line, our Blueberry Coconut Milk Firming plant based milk mask. This sheet mask itself contains blueberry and coconut milk extracts which help reduce fine lines as well as plump up the skin.

You can find this on our website at eswbuty.com, and it retails for $7. Once you open up the pouch, you can pull the sheet mask right out of the packaging. You then want to unfold the sheet mask so that you can apply it to your skin. You can do this very delicately, okay? So once it's unfolded, it should look a little something like this, and you should be able to just directly apply it onto the skin.

So you do want to stretch it out to the ends of your face and pat in all the bubbles. Make sure it's fully applied just once. You make sure that the mask is fully on your face, then you have successfully applied your sheet mask. We're gonna let this sit on our face for 15 to 20 minutes, or until the mask fully dries out. You may have some extra serum on your hands.

Don't wipe that off. That's all great stuff. You can just apply it to your arms, your neck and your chest in the meantime. So you're going to leave the sheet mask on for 15 to 20 minutes. But one way to really get the most out of the sheet mask is to use a tool.

I like to use our mint green Tea J Crystal facial roller on top of the sheet mask. This actually helps promote product absorption and in this case with a firming and plumping mask. This tool also helps reduce fine lines and wrinkles and will accentuate the benefits during this process. So I like to take the roller and do long strokes across the skin. This is going to help penetrate the serum better into the skin and push it in there.

This also feels naturally cooling as it is made with Adventurene, which is a naturally cooling crystal, so it does feel super refreshing on the skin. You do want to use one way motions and not roll back and forth between each. So for the undereye area, as well as any other more delicate areas, you can use the small stone of the facial roller. Our facial roller can also be found on our website@eswpauty.com and you can continue to roll for the 15 to 20 minutes. You don't need to roll the whole time, but however long you'd like to, you can do this.

Okay, once the 15 to 20 minutes are up, it's time to remove the mask, which is super easy. All you have to do is pinch the mask and pull it off of your face. But we're not going to throw the sheet mask away just yet. There's actually so much more serum left over in this fabric. So one way to get the most out of your sheet mask is to squeeze out all the extra serum and apply it onto your face, neck and your whole body.

Now that your body is glistening and glowing with all of that excess serum, one extra step I like to take is grabbing our hibiscus white tea rose cord squasha and doing my Gushaw routine with the excess serum. To help glide, I'll start at my neck and drag down. You want to repeat these motions five to ten times.

When you're using a guashaw, you do want a smooth and slippery surface for your Gushaw to glide easily on. So posthumask with the serum all over, the skin becomes the perfect way to use your Gushaw.

Now, guacaws do help with lymphatic drainage as well as pushing away any excess fluid in your face, neck, arms. So this is a great tool to depuff and also help get rid of any sinus pressure that you may feel.

Another great tip is if you suffer from migraines, there's multiple pressure points on your face and your neck to help target and relieve headaches. This is one right here similar to the rest of our products. You can find this Habitsuit tea rose cord squasha on our website@eswpd.com. Now that I use both of my tools and rub the excess serum into my skin, I'm going to seal everything in with a serum and a moisturizer. When I say we're going to seal in the sheet mask serum, we're really just going to layer on top of it to help it become more effective and really seep deep into your pores.

So right now I'm just applying a hyaluronic acid serum on top as my skin does tend to get a little dry, so just help promote some moisture. And then to really seal everything in, you're going to go in with your favorite moisturizer. This is going to help lock in the serum and all of its benefits. It's going to fully absorb into your skin and it's going to make it more effective than if you left it just with the serum on its own. To recap, we have two sheet mask lines inspired by raw juices and plantbased milks.

We also have our soothing tea inspired facial tools like our mint green tea jade crystal facial roller and our hibiscus white tea rose cord squash. Our soothing tea facial tools come in postconsumer recycled paper packaging as well as contain a reusable canvas tote pouch to keep your tools safe and sanitary. Both lines of our sheet mask fabric are made from cupro, which is a biodegradable and compostable fabric made from cotton linter. Our sheet map packagings are also recyclable in the LDPE Four category. You can shop our products directly from our website@eswpd.com or you can find us in retailers like Whole Foods Market, Wedmonds, Free People, Anthropology and Italy stores.

Again, my name is Sabrina, the social media coordinator with ESW Beauty showing the nine lists how to get the most out of their sheet mask. I hope you like this training course.